I remember when I was getting married and while at the wedding shower, I mentioned that I would definitely be taking more #medays so I can energize and be the best wife possible. I was quickly chided by a few older christian women that blatantly said that me days are not a spiritual endeavor; it is far too worldly.
After 11 years of marriage I have found that maybe using the word #meday gave the wrong connotation, but then for me...having a spa day was really what having a #meday was all about. Now I know more and have come to understand that a #meday is a part of a bigger picture of what is called #SelfCare. Self Care properly defined is the responsibility of taking care of oneself.
A babies life becomes all about "me", but as he/she grows and matures they learn that it truly is not all about "me". The presence and rituals of Self-Care teaches us that to care for ourselves is necessary in order to care for those that I love. Have you ever traveled on an airplane and the stewardess gets up to recite the emergency procedures? Ever noticed when they say when the oxygen masks come out, they utter, "you must first put yours on then help the other person". I have, and it seems foreign to me as a christian to put myself first, so to speak. And yet if I do not, I would be unable to help the next person.
If we follow Jesus' life we see where he is constantly taking time away from the crowd. Check out Luke 5:16 "But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed". See also, Matthew 14:22 "Immediately He made the disciples get into the boat and go ahead of Him to the other side, while He sent the crowds away. " And here is one of my favorites: Mark 6:31-32 : "Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest". So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place." And the list goes on of the times Jesus pulled away from the crowds, rested and communed with the Father. This #separating himself was essential for him to help him gain the strength to come back to serve, minister, lead and fulfill purpose. We as Christians must make it a habit of #separating ourselves from the demands, stresses, and expectations of our world.
Self-Care is not just having a #meday. But it does include having one. #SelfCare incorporates the mind, body, and spirit. For we as believers are encouraged to "put off, to be sober, lay aside every weight, etc. Self-Care is being responsible to become the best version of you as possible. It encourages us to know who we are and whose we are. Self-care challenges us to set appropriate boundaries, to remove unnecessary clutter in our lives, teaches us to find true perspectives, commune with the one who purposed us and enables us to love and care for MORE.
Over the next few weeks we will talk about varying aspects of self-care and how you can access this place of enormous energy, overflowing cups, and being a well-watered garden. Our topics of interest are Setting appropriate boundaries, Nurturing our bodies, #Rest... what does that look like?, Removing Clutter from your life, Why No's are damn good yes', and Are you Happy?